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Parenting Articles by Chana Weisberg

My Children Pray

Esther had just replaced the telephone receiver when Naomi, taking her turn, quickly began dialing.

News had just reached us of yet another suicide bombing in Israel, killing, maiming and wounding dozens more of our brethren.

The students in each of my children's respective grades had decided to join in a united effort of prayer. Each student was asked to call five friends, requesting that they make a chain call to an additional five people, urging them to pray for those hurt in the attack.

Esther, having completed her calls, sat down with a book of Psalms on her lap, ready to begin. Naomi would, momentarily, follow suit.

Meanwhile, seven-year-old Shira was observing her older sisters closely. An intelligent girl, she understood the severity of what had occurred. With an intent look on her face, Shira was searching for a way that she, too, could somehow contribute.

A moment later, my determined youngest daughter had her three-year-old brother's plump hand in hers, as she led him to the living room couch. She made sure they were both comfortably seated before opening up her own book of Psalms.

Shira searched for the shortest two chapters in the book. Then, with great care and effort, she began to recite each word, in her most authoritative voice, waiting patiently for her brother to repeat. The two continued in this manner, word by word and verse by verse.

The vowels of several of these unfamiliar words were muddled in Shira's pronunciation, and became even less intelligible once Yisroel was through with his repetition. Nevertheless, the two joyously prodded on, slowly and steadily, until two whole chapters had been recited.

Occasionally, Shira paused to comment, "Good job, Yisroel!" This, as well as Shira's most no-nonsense voice, kept Yisroel's concentration rapt until they successfully had completed Shira's self-appointed task.

A few moments later, Shira triumphantly turned to her younger brother and in a sweet voice asked, "Do you know why we just said that?" Once again, she was assuming the role of teacher.

Yisroel's blue eyes widened and he gave her his engrossed attention.

"Because," she continued, "many people keep getting hurt in Israel. We are praying for them." She explained. "And now, since we both asked so nicely, Hashem (G-d) will listen to our prayers and make sure that no more Jews get hurt." She smiled at him confidently.

"Yes," hanging on her every word and smiling in return, Yisroel parroted back, "Now Hashem will listen, and no more Jews will get hurt."

Shira then closed her book, and hand-in-hand the two skipped over to return it to its proper place on the bookshelf. Both were smiling from ear to ear, satisfied with their accomplishment, and without a shred of doubt in their minds that G-d would follow their complete bidding.

At many difficult junctures in my own life, I have reflected on the attitude of my young children.

I marvel at their child-like confidence that everything will be good.

I envy their unshakable trust in G-d, that He has heard their requests and will respond immediately and positively.

And, I deeply admire their complete certainty that their personal contributions will make a difference, convinced that each of their prayers is valuable and urgently needed.

If more of us would foster our own inner child's perception of reality -- not one of arrogance, but rather of confidence, that each of our actions count -- I believe each of us would be trying that much harder, and accomplishing that much more.

And perhaps, G-d would then listen to us -- even more often.

Chana_Weisberg is the author of three_books on the lives of Biblical women and on the feminine soul. She is the dean of the JRCC Institute of Torah Study in Toronto and lectures worldwide on issues relating to women, relationships and mysticism.